Focus on Kindness

It’s easy to get caught up in the hecticness of life and forget about the world around us, even with the deluge of “Embark in the service of others” Sunday School lessons, Relief Society handouts and Elders Quorum reminders. Too often it seems like adding one more thing to our ever-growing lists, like making cookies for a neighbor or visiting an elderly relative, is simply too much to handle.

Nevertheless, we persevere, seeking to lift those around us and help them through their struggles, ever trying to emulate the Master Healer and his eternal example of kindness and compassion.

For those days when it seems like there is nothing left that we can do, that there is simply not enough time left in the day, keep these words in mind: Focus on Kindness. Adopting this simple phrase into your life philosophy will help you to remember the struggles of those around you and help them in the simplest of ways.

Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin, in his talk “The Virtue of Kindness”, said:

Kindness is a passport that opens doors and fashions friends. It softens hearts and molds relationships that can last lifetimes.

With this statement, Elder Wirthlin describes the power of simple kindness, the results of which are anything but simple. Never underestimate the power of love and kind words. Always remember that everyone you meet is facing their own battles. Strive to treat those around you with the care the Master Healer would show. Focus on Kindness.

For those particularly busy days, here are a few simple things you can do to better serve your fellow man, a few things that will help you remember to focus on kindness:

  • Don’t honk at cars or people
  • Let someone take your parking spot
  • Respond to emails or texts promptly
  • Ask someone how they are doing and be genuinely interested
  • Greet strangers with kind words
  • Let someone go in front of you at the cashier
  • Be patient
  • Offer someone a piece of gum
  • Praise the work of others
  • Help someone carry groceries to their car
  • Hug someone you love like you mean it
  • Leave someone a “Just Thinking of You” note or text
  • Let the person who seems rushed cut in front of you
  • Smile more
  • Share, even if you don’t really want to
  • Pause before speaking or writing when you are mad, agitated or doubtful
  • Be empathetic and really try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes
  • Let go of old grudges
  • Say “Thank You” a lot
  • Walk the cart back to the front of the store
  • Share something funny
  • Compliment a stranger
  • Try to find goodness in the person you don’t like
  • Ask someone if they’ve lost some weight or tell them that they’re “just glowing”
  • Don’t complain
  • Smile easily and laugh, even at the so-so jokes
  • Do the task no one else wants to do
  • Thank your co-workers for doing a good job, for getting extra supplies, for thinking ahead, for just being easy to work with
  • Be understanding and assume the best in others
  • Spread goodness by letting others know you are on a mission to spread kindness and hopefully they will be inspired to do the same

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Published by BYU Nursing

Guided by the truths of the gospel of Jesus Christ, we exemplify the Healer’s art by: leading with faith and integrity; advancing the science of nursing and healthcare; promoting health and wellness; alleviating suffering; and serving individuals, families, and communities. The mission of the College of Nursing at Brigham Young University is to learn the Healer’s art and go forth to serve.

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